How Parents Can Boost Their Child’s Self-Esteem - Kumon

How Parents Can Boost Their Child’s Self-Esteem

What can parents do to help build their child’s self-esteem? Below is a list of ways to help boost your kid’s confidence inside and outside the classroom.


  • Celebrate the positive

Everyone responds well to encouragement. Make a special effort to celebrate the activities your child is good at, whether it’s math, science, art, or sports. Boost your child’s confidence by praising something that he does every day, even if it’s something as simple as setting the dinner table. Instead of saying “Good job,” be specific and say “Thank you, John, for setting the table for dinner.”

  • Listen to your kids

When your child needs to talk, be sure to stop and listen. By taking to the time to allow your child to express her feelings, you show that you value what she has to say. Start by asking your child something about her day at school, such as a memory from science class or her favorite math problem learned that day.

  • Provide encouragement

Give your child positive feedback on things he is good at, while supporting your child in the activities that he may need some extra practice. If your child is doing poorly in math but excellent in reading, provide opportunities to introduce math in his reading goals such as doing word problems.

  • Resist comparisons

Comments such as “Why can’t you be more like your sister, Kim?” can negatively affect your child’s self-esteem. Instead of comparing your child to another, compliment her specific talents and activities.

  • Give your child responsibilities

One way to increase your child’s self-esteem is to give him ownership over some household duties. Give your child activities that he has already shown an interest in, such as setting the table, helping prepare dinner, or feeding pets. Your trust in your child, show through giving him these responsibilities, can increase his feelings of capability and self-worth.


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