June 20, 2011 ~
Whether it’s multiplying fractions, reading, hitting a baseball or completing a pirouette, at some point your child will be faced with a task he or she finds difficult. It’s common for children to want to quit when activities they once loved become challenging. Here are some tips on how you can help your child persevere through tough times in and out of the classroom.
Identify the Cause
If your child is showing signs of frustration in or out of class, try talking about what is bothering him or her. Your child may not want to talk about it right away, so be sure to show your steadfastness and keep prodding. If your son or daughter still won’t open up, reach out to important people in your child’s life such as teachers, coaches and friends and ask if they have seen any changes in your child when certain subjects are taught or when performing particular tasks. Once you know what your child is struggling with, you will be better prepared to meet the challenge.
Lead by Example
If you want your child to have a “never-give-up” attitude, you can help by exhibiting this behavior in your own life. Whether you are trying a challenging recipe or attempting a do-it-yourself home improvement project, try to stay positive when tasks get difficult and see the project through to the end, even if you need to bring in outside help. This will show your child the importance your family places on perseverance.
Offer a Perseverance Reward
Reward systems work, and they can be very effective when you are trying to teach the importance of persevering until the job is done. You can come up with the reward together. It doesn’t have to break the bank to be meaningful. The reward can be as easy as letting your child pick what’s for dinner or selecting his or her favorite movie to watch on family night.
Motivational Statements for the Home
Classrooms and workplaces both have motivational mottos and posters hung up, so why not have them in your home as well? Many online stores have inexpensive motivational posters you can purchase and post in your child’s room. You and your child can also create your own to make it more personal. Get a poster board and cut out inspiring pictures from magazines to glue on. Then come up with your own motivational quote to support perseverance. Whenever your child feels he or she wants to give up, sit down and look at the poster together and ask your child to give it another shot.
Teaching perseverance can be a challenge for parents, but be sure to stick it out. When children finally make a breakthrough, they will show increased confidence and feel good about themselves for seeing the job through to the end. The next time they feel like giving up, they will give in to the feeling less and less.